A friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend of three years over the weekend. Since we're at work and couldn't really talk much seeing how busy we both were, it took until this afternoon to tell the tale.. While sharing the whole sordid story, it made me look back on mine and the realizations that went with it when I was going through the process..
Looking back on the almost "happy ever after" chapter in my life, I realized there must've been more than a few indicators of a possible downfall for the strongest tower there ever was.. guess i became too absorbed to take notice.. and now, two years later, I still couldn't place my finger on where exactly we went wrong.. all I knew was one day, my relationship went downhill and all sacrifices down the drain..
That being said, I realized there is no such thing as a perfect relationship.. if there was, God wouldn't have created tears and of course, we wouldn't know what is it that we really want and what would make us, a cliche, happy in the truest sense.. rather, a seemingly perfect relationship would be a more fitting term..
So basically, we really don't "get over it", we grieve and pine for that person, and suddenly you'll realize that you're used to the pain. Time does not heal all wounds, the brain ,to protect it's sanity, covers the wound with scar tissues to lessen the pain, but it's still there. We walk away to avoid pain, we might stumble a little on our way out, but we still walk away
One morning, we just wake up and things seem a bit easier.. he's not the first thing on your mind anymore.. how could they? when you don't see them anymore?
That being said, I realized there is no such thing as a perfect relationship.. if there was, God wouldn't have created tears and of course, we wouldn't know what is it that we really want and what would make us, a cliche, happy in the truest sense.. rather, a seemingly perfect relationship would be a more fitting term..
So basically, we really don't "get over it", we grieve and pine for that person, and suddenly you'll realize that you're used to the pain. Time does not heal all wounds, the brain ,to protect it's sanity, covers the wound with scar tissues to lessen the pain, but it's still there. We walk away to avoid pain, we might stumble a little on our way out, but we still walk away
One morning, we just wake up and things seem a bit easier.. he's not the first thing on your mind anymore.. how could they? when you don't see them anymore?
There are things in life we have to let go of no matter how attached we are.. at one point, it may have made us happy and blissfully unaware of what's really going on but at the end of the day, we have to consider how we really feel, not minding social niceties.
Old faces and memories are replaced by new ones.. You start to build a world without that person.. and after some time, the feeling of losing a limb eventually fades away..
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